Being grateful is my new go-to emotion.
If I’m feeling numb or distant or like I want to spiral down and down, I pick out one thing I can still do, one personality trait I am grateful for, and one thing that happened that day to be thankful for. Sometimes I just write the answers over and over again until they carry the meaning they need.
Of all the surprising benefits of being grateful, the one that strikes me right now is that it actually makes it easier to feel like I have all the reassurances I need, so I do not need to seek them from other people.
I only figured out in the last year what it means to truly find good in everything, and to make that spirit of thankfulness a priority. I was so ready for a change internally that when the gratitude that people had been telling me about for so long finally sank in, it became a part of my daily life almost immediately and with not nearly as much effort as I thought. Looking back, I started small and worked my way up to being able to write a list of positive affirmations almost every day. Writing those lists has been an incredible experience in the last three months. Now when I feel lost, I can look at the page after page of lined notebook paper and find myself again.
If you are fighting a battle with a chronic condition or chronic pain I especially hope you have the power of gratitude on your side, maybe not right now, but in the future at least. It doesn’t take my pain away, but it is almost like a blanket that keeps me warm no matter how cold the winds in my life are blowing (it’s freezing here, lol).
Easy is absolutely nowhere to be found in my new post-illness life, although people on the outside looking in must think I am lazy and everything is handed to me while I sit back in comfort and make demands on everyone around me, that simply is not the truth. In all this craziness, gratitude helps, that’s for sure. My life isn’t easy, I just make the best of it. Hard to prove, though!
Fortunately, all that matter is that I know how much grueling, non-stop work is going on even on those all-important rest days when I seem my laziest to the casual observer. Among the changes fostered in me when I adopted gratitude into my outlook, it’s finally getting easier not to care what people think. I have always been so self-conscious that by age 10, even sitting with my family in a restaurant, I was sure I was so hideous that everyone must be laughing at me, and every “her” I heard, I was sure it was me being discussed in all my disgusting glory (my self esteem was not the greatest, as a kid), so gaining some ground there is awesome, to say the least.
Apparently when everything else falls apart, we get time to explore ourselves, and pull all the good things we have buried back up to the surface again.
It honestly feels like all this soul-searching could be the most important thing I do for myself in my entire life. I am grateful for the chance to pursue it.